Is It Really Normal ?
To Boys,
"Normal nga lang ba na kahit in a relationship na kayo eh nagkakagusto pa rin kayo sa iba? ( except Artistas)"
I asked my Boy Friends stand on this matter. Walang nagsasalita sa una. Nag-iisip pareho. And then after several minutes .. they said ... YES!
OH EM -_- Iba ata ang inexpect ko ? Ouch! Para sa part ng mga Girls ..I feel disappointed a bit but never judge them. Nagtanong lang naman ako and I should be grateful na sinagot naman nila honestly. So nagtanong ulit ako.
"Ok. Baliktarin naman natin. Since you both said YES, so ibig sabihin ayos lang din sainyo na ang Girlfriend niyo ay may magustuhan ding iba while in a relationship sainyo? For example na lang sa kaibigan niyo."
"NO!!!" Hala. Automatic ang sagot ah.
REALIZATIONS STRIKE!!
To tell you honestly, this question came from a story I have read recently. The scenario is this, they have been in a relationship for 3 long years except pa dun sa childhood mem'ries din nila. Kumbaga they have been together almost all the time of their lives na. Because of studies, naengage sila dun sa tinatawag na LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP. To make the story short, nagkagusto sa iba si Guy while si GF niya ay nag-aaral abroad. Nagbreak sila eventually and this is the worst. Nagkaroon ng Psychological Problem si Girl dahil natrauma sa nangyari. She undergone a medication and along the process of healing .. she once ask a guy friend na kung panu nangyari yun na he's been so inlove with her pero nagkagusto pa rin siya sa iba. The guy said "IT IS NORMAL FOR BOYS."
I commented on the part of the girls, as for me being a girl also na "NEVER NAGING AYOS YUN!"
Kaya i open up this topic to the boys to hear their side. I know naman na matitinong lalaki ang mga kaibigan ko kaya I trust to them this kind of topic.
So ito yung nabuong conclusions ..
For GIRLS,
"Boys tend to be possessive on having us. They don't like the idea of us having a crush on other guys but saying it's normal for them na magkagusto sa ibang babae while in a relationship ..is NEVER NAGING AYOS! It is quite unfair for us."
Are you not contented on your girl para magkagusto pa sa iba? Panu pagkami nagkagusto sa isa sa mga kaibigan niyo, diba natthreaten kayo? Kasi gusto niyo SAINYO LANG KAMI!? WE FEEL THE SAME WAY!"
For BOYS,
"It is normal for us na magkagusto sa ibang babae while in a relationship with someone. Malayo naman kasi yung tinatawag na INFATUATION sa LOVE. Maaaring magkagusto kami sa iba hindi dahil di na kami contented sa girlfriend namin or di na namin sila mahal, maybe we just seen same characteristics or attitudes on her that our girl has kaya namin/ko siya nagustuhan. At the end of the day naman .. alam namin kung kanino lang kami. All we need is your TRUST. Trust na kahit kanino pa kami mapatingin or kung may magustuhan man kaming iba, magtiwala kayo sa PAGMAMAHAL namin sainyo.SAINYO pa rin kami kahit na anong mangyari."
After hearing their sides, kayo na bahala magdecide.
To tell you frankly, hindi natuldukan ang topic na to. It's kinda an "open-topic" kasi. Boy's and Girl's POVs are really contrasting. Walang makapagsasabi kung sino ang TAMA. Parehas may point so kayo nalang tlaga ang bahala magdecide on which party are you with.
"Normal nga lang ba na kahit in a relationship na kayo eh nagkakagusto pa rin kayo sa iba? ( except Artistas)"
I asked my Boy Friends stand on this matter. Walang nagsasalita sa una. Nag-iisip pareho. And then after several minutes .. they said ... YES!
OH EM -_- Iba ata ang inexpect ko ? Ouch! Para sa part ng mga Girls ..I feel disappointed a bit but never judge them. Nagtanong lang naman ako and I should be grateful na sinagot naman nila honestly. So nagtanong ulit ako.
"Ok. Baliktarin naman natin. Since you both said YES, so ibig sabihin ayos lang din sainyo na ang Girlfriend niyo ay may magustuhan ding iba while in a relationship sainyo? For example na lang sa kaibigan niyo."
"NO!!!" Hala. Automatic ang sagot ah.
REALIZATIONS STRIKE!!
To tell you honestly, this question came from a story I have read recently. The scenario is this, they have been in a relationship for 3 long years except pa dun sa childhood mem'ries din nila. Kumbaga they have been together almost all the time of their lives na. Because of studies, naengage sila dun sa tinatawag na LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP. To make the story short, nagkagusto sa iba si Guy while si GF niya ay nag-aaral abroad. Nagbreak sila eventually and this is the worst. Nagkaroon ng Psychological Problem si Girl dahil natrauma sa nangyari. She undergone a medication and along the process of healing .. she once ask a guy friend na kung panu nangyari yun na he's been so inlove with her pero nagkagusto pa rin siya sa iba. The guy said "IT IS NORMAL FOR BOYS."
I commented on the part of the girls, as for me being a girl also na "NEVER NAGING AYOS YUN!"
Kaya i open up this topic to the boys to hear their side. I know naman na matitinong lalaki ang mga kaibigan ko kaya I trust to them this kind of topic.
So ito yung nabuong conclusions ..
For GIRLS,
"Boys tend to be possessive on having us. They don't like the idea of us having a crush on other guys but saying it's normal for them na magkagusto sa ibang babae while in a relationship ..is NEVER NAGING AYOS! It is quite unfair for us."
Are you not contented on your girl para magkagusto pa sa iba? Panu pagkami nagkagusto sa isa sa mga kaibigan niyo, diba natthreaten kayo? Kasi gusto niyo SAINYO LANG KAMI!? WE FEEL THE SAME WAY!"
For BOYS,
"It is normal for us na magkagusto sa ibang babae while in a relationship with someone. Malayo naman kasi yung tinatawag na INFATUATION sa LOVE. Maaaring magkagusto kami sa iba hindi dahil di na kami contented sa girlfriend namin or di na namin sila mahal, maybe we just seen same characteristics or attitudes on her that our girl has kaya namin/ko siya nagustuhan. At the end of the day naman .. alam namin kung kanino lang kami. All we need is your TRUST. Trust na kahit kanino pa kami mapatingin or kung may magustuhan man kaming iba, magtiwala kayo sa PAGMAMAHAL namin sainyo.SAINYO pa rin kami kahit na anong mangyari."
After hearing their sides, kayo na bahala magdecide.
To tell you frankly, hindi natuldukan ang topic na to. It's kinda an "open-topic" kasi. Boy's and Girl's POVs are really contrasting. Walang makapagsasabi kung sino ang TAMA. Parehas may point so kayo nalang tlaga ang bahala magdecide on which party are you with.
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