Lessons Learned

I haven't seen this coming. I don't even expected na makakausap ko sila ng ganito. Like we are talking about dealing with relationships, proper way of treating your partner or even the smallest thing like proper way of holding a girl's hand or asking questions about your partner having a crush on other. Wow ! How grateful I am for having them. Who? My Boy and Girl Friends! They're just great people who you'll think only knows in life is to focus on their grades, being on the Dean's List or simply being .. PERFECT.

Grabe ! Hanggang ngayon windang parin ako sa mga narinig ko mula sa kanila. That feeling na akala ko alam ko na lahat kasi I've been through A LOT of relationships(when I say A LOT, its really that number that you can't count alone using your two hands, XD), but then having those conversations with them last night opens me up into MORE things to be learned in dealing with relationships.

The conversation just started from a joke .. from ME! Yes, from me. Yung nagthrow lang ako ng joke kasi yung dalawa kong kaibigan(opposite genders) are holding hands! NO, not really holding hands.Err. Massaging each others hand? Haha. Basta yun na yun. Taz someone interrupted us(a girl) saying she bated her suitor because of his way of holding her hand. She then demostrated to ushow Denz(his suitor) hold her hand. And I, having this habit of reading a lot shared my own knowledge regarding this matter.

Yung way pala ng pagkakahawak ay sa wrist niya. She then said na nakakaturn-off daw. Boys! Take note of this .. the right way of holding a girl's hand is having that 'interwined fingers or atleast yung other way na hinahawakan niyo yung four fingers niya except for the thumb(basta! i-imagine niyo nalang). Pagkasi ganun, yumg sa wrist, it shows "VIOLENCE". Yes! kasi parang you as a guy is showing an act like "I have control over you. You can't do anything without my consent or atleast you can't escape from me." Maybe to some girls it is a Turn On, for them liking a guy who shows a possesive side. But eventually, you'll realize what I mean.

Kami ni Dith, we hgave seen a couple so long time ago in a marathon event na nakasakay sa likod ng tricy with the guy na nakaakbay kay girl while nakainterwined naman yung right hand ni girl sa nakaakbay na kamay ni Guy. Initial reaction namin ni Dith, "Aww! Ang Sweet *^_^*". From then on, yun na ang naging 'picture' na nakikita namin ni Dith na 'Ideal & Sweet' way of holding hands.

But after hearing the BOY's POV which happens to be two of my closest boy friends, nagbago yung 'picture' na si-net namin ni Dith in our minds.

The boys told us that it is not the right way a guy should hold his girl's hand. There's a hidden agenda behind it. Then Ericka( the girl i talked about earlier) snap it out. She gets exactly what the boys are trying to imply. She said "It's a way of the guy trying to touch a private part a girl has." Wow ! We don't even thought about this. Siguro kasi ang nakikita lang namin dun is the 'sweet gesture' na naiisip namin since they're obviously a couple and we haven't thought of the negative side of the action itself. Di namin alam na it's a "Manyak move"( according to me) or "Chansing Move" (according to Dith) na pala yun.

#LessonLearned about the proper way of Holding Hands. :)